The 5 Love Languages.
I borrowed this book from a friend, because I was curious about it. It has gotten great reviews.
I’ve basically finished it, and it has really been eye opening. It is mostly about communication, and the different ways we communicate love to one another. The frustration that many couples have stems from having different love languages, and communicating love differently to each other. Love is there, it’s just being spoken in different ways. The point is to figure out what your spouses “love language” is, communicate in that way to them, to ensure their “love tank” is full.
~Those different love languages are grouped like this:
*Words of affirmation
*Quality Time
*Receiving Gifts
*Acts of Service
*Physical Touch
For me, I was surprised by what my own love language seemed to be. I had initially read that list, and decided I was probably one of those and Brody another, and then the more I read the book the more I realized it was different than I had initially determined.
One piece of marital advice, that Brody and I have hung onto all these years, (don’t always do this, but return to this piece of advice) was given to us by our pastor, and that is, “You both need to be giving 100 percent of sacrifice, service and love to one another, then you both will be satisfied.”
Have you read this book? What is your love language? What is your spouse’s? How do you communicate that to each other? (if you feel comfortable answering)
August 21st, 2008 at 8:45 am
Went through this book with a “young families” church group, and I really liked it, too.
My language is Acts of Service, followed closely by Quality Time. Ryan’s more of the other three! At least, knowing that, we can make the effort to communicate love to each other better.
Our pastor gave us the same advice. Marriage is not 50/50; it’s 100/100! So true.
August 21st, 2008 at 12:37 pm
My husband’s love language is words of encouragement. Mine is quality time.
August 21st, 2008 at 1:37 pm
I’ve read this book as well. Like Annie, my first was Acts of Service (really simple, basic stuff ya know). And my second was Quality Time. Although I don’t have a spouse anymore, I still keep the lessons the Lord taught me through this book close to my heart.
August 21st, 2008 at 1:44 pm
Mine was equally quality time and words of encouragement. I personally can see them go hand in hand. It’s mostly like a spoken sincere desire to spend quality time with me.
Brody’s were physical touch and words of encouragement secondly. He loves hugs!
August 21st, 2008 at 5:27 pm
I think I know what mine are, but after you said that you also knew your, maybe I should read that book. I think mine are the same as Brody’s though….
Love you, Mom
August 21st, 2008 at 8:15 pm
We read this book with a small couples group at church and I enjoyed it. Mine are acts of service and quality time. My husband’s are physical touch and words of affirmation.
It was fun to read it with a group one chapter at a time, great discussions each week. We also played games each week, the most fun was the newlywed game, although most of us have been married for more than a couple of years. We learned so much about our marriage.
(We also read the book His Needs Her Needs by Willard F. Harley, Jr. with this group.)
August 23rd, 2008 at 12:47 pm
I read it a few years ago its actually not a bad book. some pretty good ideas and concepts.